Inviting you to start here: orientating you to the who, what, where, when, and why of grief -- Preface: Life lessons learned at the bottom of the ocean -- Introduction: A guide to reading this book -- Time in grief: discovering how and why time feels so different. The worlds still spinning -- Start close in -- The messy middle -- Wait. Am I still grieving? -- What the hell is happening to me? Helping you see the 360-degree impact of grief (no, it's not just all in your head). Everything sucks (and other negative thoughts) -- This is your brain on grief -- Your body knows -- Too much too soon -- Emotions and feelings and moods, oh my! -- Another full-time job -- Relating to yourself and others (or not): (re)discovering yourself and your relationship to others in grief. Everyone is stylish in their own way -- Knowing and honoring your needs -- Oh, the places you go and the people you see (and why it's exhausting) -- People say stupid shit -- Whose got your back? -- Of course it's complicated -- Access denied -- Pitfalls, hazards: identifying the grief thief and other speed bumps when navigating loss. Watch out for the grief thief -- There is no grief GPS -- Ambiguity s-u-c-k-s -- "Should" is a dirty word (and not the swearing kind) -- Holidays, anniversaries and other grief hazards -- Secondary losses: the sneakiest bitches of them all -- Skills and tools that help grief suck less: discovering ways to soften the hard edges of grief. Notice mindfully -- Improv skills help -- Your turn to buddy-breathe -- Seek a creative resource -- Make space -- Now what? Bringing curiosity to the emerging story of your life. The beautiful, messy emerging you -- Memories for safekeeping -- Meaning-making (even though it did not happen for a reason) -- When grief becomes part of the whole story--but not the whole story -- A little extra. Appendix A: An alphabet of reminders for your grief journey -- Appendix B: A letter to the grief supporters.